Monday, December 30, 2019
It’s a rainy day, and Monday, and the last Monday of the
last month of the last year of the decade, a scary concept since I once thought
making it merely to the year 2000 would be an accomplishment. Now, we are edging
into the twenties, marking the centennial of those members of my family that
predated my uncles and aunts, yet whom I managed to meet before they passed off
this mortal coil.
This idea that we have transitioned into another decade
scares me a little, and adds to the blue mood I feel with the cold rain pelting
at my window.
The outside cat we call “Tiger Kitty Brother” came into the mudroom
to get out of the rain and I sat up with him for a while, feeling chilly, but
in that sense I used to get sitting on the front porch of the old house in
Clifton when I was out of the rain, but still being touched by it.
We made our way to Asbury Park again this weekend, wasted a
lot of time between dinner and when we actually were to see the band, and
though the band was good, we were too tired to stay for more than one set – a certain
sign of our getting old, as was having to listen to the kids around us – me wondering
if I sounded as stupid at that age as they do. One woman and three guys behind
us was particularly silly, the three guys all trying to get her, only have her
take off with a fourth man.
I guess the three guys were good enough to buy her drinks,
but not good enough to go home with.
On Saturday, we had breakfast at Franks, read the story
posted about Springsteen, then took our stroll down the board walk, where a footrace
has just concluded, before we made our way back to the car. We drove south
along Ocean Avenue until it stopped near Belmar, and then drove home.
Everywhere were signs of the old days, changing, rust settling
on things that had seemed fresher when I made my way through these streets many
years ago. I kept thinking of my family, and how this had been such a big part
of their lives, and the century in which they came south when it was still just
a location for summer resorts, crabbing in the bays, swimming in the ocean,
buying fruit from highway stands that have since ceased to exist.
They are all gone, the family, and I carry these memories
around with me as I drive, and memories that aren’t even my memories of a time
when things seem much more simple, and how we could still get lost on these
highways (lacking GPS to steer us home) and how we really didn’t mind, as long
as we came in out of the rain at the end.